We did it, y’all! 2018 is dunzo.
At the beginning of 2018, I sat down and wrote some intentions for the year. I ended up following through with the key intentions, which was a delightful surprise to me. I changed my mind about some of them, which was fine. And I kept my expectations in check and I had the smarts to know when I was taking on too much and when to say no (most of the time…).
Here’s a little round-up of things that were cool in DC4B-land for 2018.
Crafting out Self-Care
One of my goals for 2018 was to “learn a craft.” Instead of learning a craft, I learned many! I’ve done some collaging and embroidery, and I made wreaths and ornaments leading up to the holiday season. I’ve found crafting to be soothing, fun, a bit frustrating, but ultimately rewarding. It’s a really good way to learn to not strive for perfection. Like any good writing requires editing, your first few stitches or cuts or folds might be shitty. But you’ll get there. But sometimes, good enough is enough! Also, it’s a fun thing to do while watching garbage TV while feeling like you’re accomplishing something! Double the self-care pleasure!
Living for Pop Culture While Living with Mental Illness
That’s the tagline for my podcast, Pop& Down. Starting a podcast was a beginning-of-the-year idea in 2018. Once I had time and the mental capacity to commit myself to pursuing a podcast, things moved rather quickly!
In mid-May, I was browsing through free courses at the Toronto Reference Library when I came across Vocal Fry Studios’ intro to podcasting workshop/class. I learned some excellent tips and tricks that I’ve applied to my own pod, and I’ve been able to pass along these lessons to other potential podcasters. However, because I spoke up and shared my podcast idea in class, I got a bit of a fire under my ass to get the wheels started. Honestly? I was afraid of someone stealing my idea! But also? I felt informed, more confident, and really excited. Plus, the library had free recording space and equipment! I’m thrilled with what Pop& Down has done for me and my listeners, so far, and excited about its potential for 2019.
Making a Reproductive Choice
I haven’t written much about this, but anyone who knows me IRL or online knows that I don’t want kids (for a myriad of reasons, which I’m sure I’ll write about in the future).
I was chatting with a good friend of mine back in February/March about us both not wanting kids, and she mentioned seeing her doctor soon to get a referral for a tubal ligation. I’ve been on and off of birth control since I was 16. I thought about the convenience, the costs and my mental capacity and talked it over with my spouse, and thought, “Fuck it!” and set a doctor’s appointment. All said, it took almost all year from the time I consulted my family doctor to being on my couch binging Grey’s while my stitches healed.
I’m a childfree by choice woman who’s had the good fortune to have never had an unplanned pregnancy. Getting my tubal was empowering for me in its own way. Sure, birth control has the word “control” in it, but today I truly do feel in control of my reproductive system. There’s no chance for me to have to make further reproductive choices. And I feel free.
Favorite song of 2018: Lana Del Rey – “Venice Bitch”
Favorite album of 2018: Kacey Musgraves – Golden Hour
Favorite movie of 2018: Support the Girls
Favorite new TV Show of 2018: Pose
Favorite concert of 2018: Haim & Lizzo’s Sister Sister Sister tour
Celebrity mental health hero of 2018: Mariah Carey
Life-changer of 2018: My slogan for the year was #shootyourshotin2018, and I fucking did! Now I have a podcast, have a couple of paid published pieces of writing and I’m a full-on blonde. Will continue to keep shooting my shot in 2019.
Also, Coconut LaCroix became available in Canada this year.